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Disentangling from emotionally immature people, avoid emotional traps, stand up for your self, and transform your relationships as an adult child of emotionally immature parents, Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD

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Includes bibliographical references and index

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Disentangling from emotionally immature people

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Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD

avoid emotional traps, stand up for your self, and transform your relationships as an adult child of emotionally immature parents

"In this essential handbook, best-selling author Lindsay Gibson provides adult children of emotionally immature parents (ACEIPs) everyday solutions to help them deal with any emotionally immature person. Readers will find insights and explorations into the most common challenges ACEIPs face, as well as tips for building self-confidence, setting boundaries, and establishing healthier relationships"--, Provided by publisher"From the author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, this handbook offers essential, practical solutions to help you "disentangle" from emotionally immature people, stand up for your self, and transform your relationships. If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met or dismissed-and you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, and abandonment as a result. As an adult, you have fought hard to establish your own sense of self, and heal the invisible wounds caused by your upbringing.But what about other emotionally immature people (EIP) in your life? EIPs are often unpredictable, volatile, and difficult to handle. They tend to be me-first people, with little regard for others. They may not respect you as an individual-which can be isolating, hurtful, and lonely. As an adult child of an emotionally immature parent (ACEIP), you may be particularly vulnerable to EIPs. But you are not powerless! If you're tired of being emotionally hijacked by EIPs, this handbook can help you avoid common traps, build confidence, and stand strong in your self.In this must-have guide, author Lindsay Gibson provides everyday solutions to help you manage relationships with any emotionally immature person. You'll find practical insights and explorations into the most common challenges ACEIPs face, and practical guidance to help set boundaries and establish healthier relationships. You'll also learn to handle difficult interactions with EIPs, understand their responses, and transform your relationships to build a happier life. It's time to disentangle from EIPs! As an ACEIP, you have spent a lifetime compensating for others' behavior and putting your needs last. With this handbook, you'll find the information you need to understand how EIPs function, shift your own perspective regarding these relationships, and stand up for your self without guilt, shame, or fear"--, Provided by publisher

Intro -- Contents -- Introduction -- Part I . Why EIPs Are the Way They Are -- 1. How would I know if someone was emotionally immature? -- 2. How can my grown-up parents be immature? -- 3. Are both my parents immature? -- 4. Why do they act like that? -- 5. They are so contradictory -- it baffles me. -- 6. Why is it always about them? -- 7. Nothing I do is ever enough. -- 8. Why is it so hard to get close or share anything real with them? -- 9. Why do they make it so hard to want to be around them? -- 10. Is there hope for a better relationship? -- Part II. How EIPs Have Affected You -- 11. My siblings had the same parents. Why are we so different? -- 12. It's like I don't exist around them. Why won't they listen or take my feelings into account? -- 13. I had to be the responsible one, the little grown-up, my parent's confidant. -- 14. I'm successful and have built a good life, but sometimes I feel like a fake. -- 15. Why can't they give me a little positive feedback? -- 16. I easily feel guilty, selfish, afraid, and full of self-doubt. -- 17. They always seem morally superior and "righteous." -- 18. My parent's religion made me feel afraid and unworthy -- 19. I was taught to believe things about myself that just aren't true. -- 20. I get overly emotionally involved in the EIP's needs and problems. -- 21. I can't think straight around them. I get confused and inarticulate. -- 22. I can't stand up to them. They always win. -- 23. I am so angry at them -- I can't stop thinking about what they've done. -- 24. I've had some disappointing relationships. How do I do it right next time? -- 25. How do I make sure I'm not an EI parent? -- Part III. Stepping Back -- 26. I can't help feeling guilty when they're upset with me -- 27. I know they're acting crazy, but I don't know how to respond when they're being absurd. -- 28. I just want them to love me and understand my feelings. -- 29. Every time I set a boundary, I feel like a mean, heartless person. -- 30. They say I don't love them enough or in the right way. Am I capable of love? -- 31. No matter what I do, they still seem hurt and betrayed. -- 32. I got free, but I miss our closeness. -- Part IV. Saving Yourself -- 33. I traded authenticity for approval. -- 34. I want to be myself, but I fear rejection -- 35. Who am I really? How do I know for sure what's best for me? -- 36. I try so hard to do things perfectly that I exhaust myself. -- 37. I wish I weren't such a people pleaser. -- 38. It kills me to ask someone for help. -- Part V. Solving Problems -- 39. I'm always nervous about angering or disappointing my adult child. -- 40. I still feel intimidated and apologetic around EIPs. -- 41. I'm so concerned about their reactions, it's hard to say my truth. -- 42. How can I get through to them? -- 43. I'm trying to be more assertive, but I keep going along with them -- 44. Even when I try my new strategies, I still end up feeling drained by them

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